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I saw a segment about this on Good Morning America today... I think it's ridiculous. I do think that schools need to enforce a rule regarding kissing, or inappropriate conduct between students. However, it is completely natural for all people to hug their friends. Furthermore, it is a vital role in personal growth for adolecents to develop personal relationships (bf/gf, whatever) and to want to hold hands and hug. However, these school administrators do not realize that by not allowing students to hug or hold hands, they are not only inhibiting the personal growth of their students to develop positive relationships in the future, they are making affection a type of "forbidden fruit" of sorts and making these students even MORE curious. By eliminating affection from schools, students aren't learning what is an appropriate display of affection and what is inappropriate. Without those guidelines, students may lose the ability to know when their affection has gone too far. Oh, and for the schools who are claiming "congested hallways" then they may ban talking and having friendships altogether, since many students stop to talk to one another as well. It is no more congested by a hug than it is by talking.
i saw this on the news this morning..i do not agree with them punishing students for a mere hug..as long as that is all there is...
Bloody hell. Common sense is officially extinct.
I think our nation is headed to hell in a handbasket, in the name of 'protecting the children'
no that just sounds dumb the halls in my high school are very over crowded and everyone still decides to stand still in the halls but no detion for it
i dont think it should be punishable. i think it's crap. when i was in school, i got suspended for hugging my boyfriend
no i don't think so
no, not in public, in school, I would say yes. There was a good answer about this last night from a teacher that explains why - i'll find it & post it in a second - My nephew just got in trouble in the 8th grade for hugging his girlfriend. It was the 3rd time they got onto him for it. He has to go to A school or be suspended if he does it again. The principal told my sister it was because if they let him do it, they have to let everyone do it - be right back with that answer...............
I will give a teachers perspective. I tell students all of the time to break it up. They start by hugging and then they start kissing and many a lot more. One boy had his arm around a girls neck on her shoulders innocent looking at first and when I was about to tell him to take his arm off of her he grabbed her chest. What is so hard about keeping your hands off of each other for that short period of time. My wife and I are both teachers, how would students feel if she and I did the same thing in the halls? A girl hugs a girl and people say that should be ok, it is innocent. Then lesbian teens are hugging and homosexual boys get upset because the girls are allowed so we then have to allow them to hug, then the straight kids get upset because the homosexual kids are allowed so now we have to let them. It was said by her mother, where do we draw the line. We did, it was with hugs. High Fives and holding hands are allowed.
It is unproffesional and innapropriate while at school. If the parents do not mind that is fine. It is a rule and therefore should be enforced more and obeyed. Lets get real, the school is not the proper place for that kind of behavior. It is a place for learning not a place for socializing.
Many boys hug girls not for the affection but for other reasons we are all aware of.
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What I feel is that the schools have gotten so PC that they cannot see the forest for the trees. Public displays of affection have always been against the rules. What those displays are has changed. In my day there was no kissing, no arms around each other when walking and things like that. Hugging was acceptable but not between classes. We actually had teachers in the doors of their classrooms telling us to move along. Time between classes was short, just 3 minutes so we had to move it. Things like this and giving a kindergartner detention for hugging a little girl or his teacher are just ridiculous. These are the same people who want to give middle school students condoms and birth control. They just do not make any sense.
I wonder if a psychiatric evaluation needs to be done on school administrators. If one compiles all the ridiculous rules, regulations, tactics and educational choices the public school system has implemented in the past 15 years or so it would appear they were initiated by someone who suffered emotional abuse as a child or plainly can't cope with masses children.
The typical way a government handles the masses is through "across the board laws" or as in the military "rules and regulations". There is no room for the gray area. When dealing with children this is damaging to their psyche.
The public school system still hasn't managed to get a grip on bullying and yet they push for tolerance. As an example, my niece was called a terrorist because she is half Persian and accused of having a bomb in her backpack. This went on for months. The teacher said it was innocent and the principal did nothing to the bullies. The minute my 10 year old niece lashed back at the 4 bullies and said, "if you don't stop I will throw my backpack at you", she was detained, interrogated and expelled pending investigation.
Now and innocent child hugs a classmate and all hell breaks loose all in the name of controlling the extreme behavior of the small majority.
Private school is a struggle for my brothers and sisters but all our kids are well advanced passed their grade levels and enjoy going to school to learn. The schools all have zero tolerance policies against the important issues like drugs and sexual behavior just like the public schools used to. The only difference is that they actually teach the grade level the kids are supposed to be at.
It is not that our kids are advanced, it is the public schools are scholastically behind all because the administrators set their priorities in all the wrong areas.
May God bless our public school system and may the tax payers stand up and demand change.
Our society has made things this way. It sucks that we became so sue happy and had to make changes. An innocent hug is now a crime.
Yes. These hugging kids are very very bad and need a good hard spanking.
First, you have to understand that you are asking for personal opinions, which have nothing to do with this situation. If a school rule is "no hugging", that's the rule and must be obeyed or you will face the consequences.
My personal opinion: Most rules are made to deal with extremes. However, in order to enforce the rules against those extremes, the rule must also include "less than extreme" actions.
In my military days, there was a rule for almost everything. And if there was not a rule against something, it was okay to do it. Knowing all the rules was nearly impossible.
When I left the military, I asked my new civilian boss for a copy of all the company rules. He told me there were no rules at his company but that everyone was expected to "respect the rights of others".
When I asked why no rules, he said that once you make a rule, you can never stop making more rules, because you have to include every possible situation or you cannot enforce the rules.
Although it made a lot of sense to me (and still does), new rules are created every day because a long time ago someone created that first rule.
I'm shocked how can giving a hug to a friend be wrong
i live in England and kids are always hugging their Friends i cant see the arm in it
that's ridiculous.
NO i think all thees studies are a inappropriate violation
of our life's. half the people who give them need to get a life. i lost a job cause a study said i was not a people person, but any one who knows me will tell you other wise.
so what r u to do, walk around drones. HELLO!
no
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